Ok, so the other day I read this list someone put together here on Tumblr called, “Top Ten Things to do Before You Graduate High School”
Now, the majority of the time I find many of these lists that get passed around to be completely true and sometimes pretty funny. But, this list has a lot of holes and negative consequences, and to be honest just seems like a pretentious, bratty, hipster-wannabe made it to make others think that they live life on the edge and that these are things that everyone of that age should be or is doing. This blogger is irresponsible and a bad role model.
As a soon-to-graduate-college senior, I feel obligated to at least warn the 44,000+ reblogging/liking youngsters on this site that some of these “things to do” are not something you should aspire to as a naive, gullible high schooler. You may currently be insulted by my calling you naive and gullible, but when you get to be my age you’ll realize I’m right. And I’ll admit, I’m still naive and gullible at times. I’m only 21 after all. I still have a lot of living and learning to do.
But, I’m just saying…No one should look back on life with regrets. No one.
Kids, do not try some of these things at home.
"2. Start driving in one direction on the highway after school one day, pretending like you’re running away. Blast bad pop music and sing along. Stop in the suburbs when your mom calls you to come home, but buy your little brother a cupcake before you turn back around."
"…pretending like you’re running away." Do you think the idea of that seems rebellious or romantic? Because you sound like an idiot.
Do you have an abusive home life or are you little orphan Annie?
If you answered no to that question, then you need to stop whining and realize that you have first world problems compared to the rest of the world. You have a car to drive, money in your pocket, a decent education gifted to you, and food in your belly.
You have parents who love you and shouldn’t have to worry that their son or daughter didn’t show up after school at the time they should have. They shouldn’t have to pick your butt up because your car broke down miles and miles away and you need a ride home. And God forbid something terrible happens like you get in an accident, or you have car troubles and go for help and get attacked mugged or raped in the process.
Running away from your problems doesn’t solve anything.
"4. Smoke a cigarette. Let it burn your throat. Cough, loudly."
DO NOT START SMOKING. I REPEAT, DO NOT START SMOKING.
In this day and age with the amount of knowledge and statistics we have on how terrible smoking is for you, how many different cancers it can cause, and how awful secondhand smoke is for others…smoking is the worst habit anyone could ever pick up.
"6. Make enemies. Make the kind of mistakes that cause your life to implode. Lose everyone and everything to these mistakes. Only when you fall will you find out that you can pick yourself back up."
Don’t make enemies. Don’t stoop to the level of a bully; instead kill them with kindness.
You never know, someone you originally disliked might show up later in your life in an unexpected way. They could be your boss, co-worker. Heck, you might even end up friends.
Don’t burn bridges. Some one might end up being a great connection for you…leading you to a wonderful new friend, the love of your life, or a great job.
"8. Steal Bourbon from your parents’ liquor cabinet and put it in a water bottle beneath your bathroom sink. Spike your tea with it when you think you’ve hit rock bottom. Pour the whole thing down the drain when it’s too strong for you."
You don’t need to drink to solve your problems.
You don’t need to drink to have a good time. If you learn how to be social and have conversations with people WITHOUT alcohol, you will find yourself having fun and not needing it.
Drinking to get “so wasted” and telling your friends the next day how you “blacked out and can’t remember anything” is not cool. Nor does it make you seem older or more mature.
Trust me, when you get to college people will look down on you for being the obnoxious/slutty/loud/man-whore/douche drunk that you are. You will be that “awful freshman who can’t handle their alcohol.”
Plus, you don’t want those “experiences” to end up turning into Facebook photos, that at the time seem “so funny,” but later are seen by your future employer. And then you lose an interview or job over it. You may not be thinking about your future as a young high schooler, but someday you’ll realize how embarrassing your actions really were.
"9. Become a stereotype. Buy a record player and combat boots. Wear all black. Dye your hair bright blue and get your ear pierced three times. Don’t care when people laugh at you."
Be yourself. Be the best version of yourself…the you that you aspire to be.
Don’t let anyone convince you to do or be something you’re not.
Don’t become a stereotype…just for the sake of being a stereotype, and saying you are something that you’re not. If you think you’re being cool by doing it, then you don’t know what cool is. Do something because you’re passionate about it and don’t care if others laugh.
Hopefully what I have to say strikes a chord with someone. Live the life you want to live.
If you think you might regret something later in life, don’t do it. It’s not worth it. Whatever it is may seem MAJOR at the time and then be nothing in the future.
You matter. You owe it to yourself to live a happy, long life. The life you deserve.