So, last night, I was watching the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show and tweeting…as you do.
And I noticed all these women tearing down other women on social media…criticizing the VS models, other women on the Internet, and even Taylor Swift.
They said things like “God, those VS models are disgusting,” “Thanks for making everyone feel bad about themselves and portraying a poor body image to young girls,” “Ugh, Taylor you’re not even singing, you don’t look good and you’re a slut. #goaway”
These are the same people who say they support women and claim themselves to be “feminists.”
All I could think was, this is the farthest thing from feminism.
First of all, the VS models are women, too. And if I may steal this from George R.R. Martin, “I’ve always considered women to be people.”
If you listened to their interviews during the show and know anything about these women you would know that, for some of them, being a VS model is their ultimate dream.
Well, I’d like to ask you, what’s your absolute dream career in life? Think of it right now. Now think of how you would feel if people, day in and day out, constantly criticized you for doing what you love. Said you were a poor role model for young girls and degrading to women everywhere because of your profession. You wouldn’t like that very much would you?
If that’s what they want to do in life, then more power to them! Do what makes you happy and don’t worry about what other people think.
And if someone is doing something that is not your cup of tea, then it’s not your cup of tea. Don’t rant and rave on social media or in everyday conversation. It’s not your life, or your body…so it’s not your call.
…”If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all.” Life’s to short to constantly criticize people, and spend precious time, thoughts, and energy on hate.
Another thing I’d like to point out is, yes, many times models look extremely skinny. And in past years, there have been a few VS models that I have thought could use a little more meat on their bones.
But, this year I was happily surprised that ALL the models looked gorgeous.
They weren’t stick thin or emaciated, but rather healthy and muscular. These women seemed fuller-figured and toned. I was very impressed.
"Don’t judge a book by its cover." Don’t just blurt out judgement before getting to know someone or seeing something. Some women were tweeting before the show even started or only after one model had walked, how skinny and terrible these models looked. You haven’t even seen the show yet…how can you already form an opinion? Just because anorexic-skinny models are a societal stereotype, doesn’t make it true…and hating on them before they even walk out is just promoting that stereotype.
Also note, many of these models were born naturally tall and skinny. Many women, including myself, have genetically fast metabolisms. We can eat things that are bad for us and not gain weight…we were born this way. Hating on someone who is naturally skinny is just as bad as bullying someone who is overweight…hypocrisy at its finest.
And to those of you who say, “Thanks for making me feel bad about myself”…Remember, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Don’t compare yourself to others.
If you love yourself, then continue loving yourself. If you want to change something about yourself, then change something about yourself. But, do it because you want to. Only you.
And if watching the Fashion Show makes you feel bad…then don’t watch it. Simple as that, just turn away.
As for “portraying a bad image to young girls”…Young girls shouldn’t even be watching the VS Fashion Show! It is on a 9 o’clock at night and is basically one big advertisement for sexy, WOMEN’S lingerie…enough said.
And hating on Taylor Swift because she, as many put it, was “lip-syncing,” “can’t sing,” "is dressed slutty," or “doesn’t look good,” is just caddy and shallow.
I do like and own almost all of Taylor's music, and I think she seems like a sweet, intelligent, compassionate and thoughtful person.
Last night, I think she rocked the event. You could hear her taking breaths and could tell she was, indeed, not lip syncing. And that was probably the best I’ve heard her sing. She had great breath control, hit all the notes, and had excellent vibrato.
Plus, she looked GORGEOUS! Her outfits matched the themes really well. And she’s so tall and leggy that, half the time when they panned out, she looked like one of the models. She was very professional about the whole thing.
Also, way to slut-shame others. What makes her “slutty,” as you call it…pray tell? Because she’s wearing sexy, yet age-appropriate (she’s in her 20s, now, by the way) dresses. Because she has had a handful of famous boyfriends and went out on some dates? She’s a normal late-teen/20-something…we all go out with boys. The only difference is she has been thrust into the spotlight and we see her love life plastered on E!News.
It’s OK to not like her music because it's not your cup of tea. That’s your perspective and opinion. But, stop it with the slut-shaming and calling her ugly because it’s just not true.
The whole moral of this story is…We women should support one another, not pull each other down.
Sorry for the rant.
I just felt it needed to be said.